What do you think of when you think “BDSM” or “kink?” If you picture a woman encased in black leather, thigh-high boots, and a crop in her hand - rawr - I like how you think. Maybe you picture a tall, dark, brooding man in a three-piece suit, jewel-encrusted cuff links, and a smirk on his face. Okay, I really like how your mind works.
But there’s fantasy and then there’s reality.
Sure, go to a BDSM club or play party and someone will be in all leather, from head to toe, and it will likely be black. But that look is more stereotype than reality. BDSM isn’t all black, dark, and leather. In many ways, it’s relaxed, casual, and fun.
What Do Kinksters Wear?
There’s a little bit of a joke in BDSM that goes: What does a Dominant wear when they play? Answer? Any damn thing they want. When I go out to play with my Dominant, I may wear a little black, but I always have something bright colored - usually purple. My Dominant might wear jeans, he might wear his black boots (just the sound of them clicking on the floor is enough to melt my panties), and even he will wear a bit of purple. It’s kind of our signature color.
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When you’re playing, it’s best to wear what’s comfortable - and for the submissives and bottoms out there, whatever your Dominant or play partner likes or wants you to wear. A submissive friend of mine wears a bright blue kimono before she plays. A Dominant friend of mine will wear a t-shirt and jeans. Sometimes they play in leather and sometimes they don’t. The corsets, leather, and other gear are fun to have and try, but don’t think it’s a requirement when you want to get kinky and play, and definitely don’t think you have to be in all black, either.
Bright Colors in Kinky Play
Remember that image of the woman in leather and boots with a riding crop? You probably pictured all black. What if I told you the crop was red and black? Or that her boots were bright red? Your toys, accessories, and whatever you use for kinky play come in all colors.
I have bright purple bondage tape in my toy box. Most of my vibrators are hot pink, purple, or turquoise. Our floggers come in several shades from white and black to purple.
You may have noticed that purple is my color. When you start looking around for toys to play with or implements of ass destruction in your impact play, you can find a rainbow of colors. Bright green, blinding yellow, white - pick a color you like and someone in the kink community either has it or can make it for you.
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Not All Kink is Done With Leather
Most kinky play is about creating sensations of some sort - anything from pain to pleasure, from tickling to the drip of hot wax trickling down your body. It should come as no surprise that not all of your toys will be made of leather, either. As the kinky world expands, thanks to online retailers, your choices open up for materials to choose from.
You’re here at Kink Craft who specializes in paracord - a lightweight, nylon rope that’s a stretchy material and can feel rough or soft, depending on how it’s used. I mentioned bondage tape earlier. Some people will even use duct tape (ouch!) in their play. Silk, fur, suede - all of these create different sensations when they come in contact with skin and muscle, and depending on how they’re used, you may feel something different each time.
Where Do You Find the Bright Colors in Kink?
Go into any toy store in your local area, and you’ll find neon colored toys to play with from cock rings to dildos. If your store doesn’t have a thriving fetish selection, you may be inundated with all-black-everything. That can get boring after a while. Sure, the toys you use for orgasm denial and forced orgasms are colors that could blind you, but what about the rest of your gear? Now, it’s time to get out of the adult “mainstream” and try something new.
Here at Kink Craft, you can find purple and hot pink paracord cuffs ready-made or take a course and use the paracord color of your choice. Prefer bright yellow or rainbow colors? You can make your toys in any color you want. Take a look at JuJu Jezebel, and you can have all the leather you want but very little of it is black. Pink, red, blue, brown, silver, gold - it’s all there. Chastity belts more your style? At Behind Barz, you can get them in red or blue. Now how’s that for making a statement at the next fetish party?
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Don’t let the stereotypes of BDSM and kink force you to use the same boring toys over and over again. Don’t believe that you have to look a certain way or dress in specific clothing in order to play or get kinky. If you’re someone who loves bright colors, you can have your kink and your rainbow colors, too. And if you simply don’t want to do what everyone else is doing, you have plenty of options in material, color, and style. Go wild, have fun, and surround yourself with your favorite colors when you get kinky.
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