Being Kinky and Single on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day. It either fills your heart with fluffy, lovey-dovey happiness or something akin to mortal dread. It’s strange how one day has become so terribly important to people. It is after all just one day mostly designed to sell stuff.

Valentine’s Day hearts 3Don’t get me wrong, I’m a total romantic and I’m all for celebrating love. I just don’t think it needs to be done on a prescribed day in a way that leads to you spending loads of money just because it’s expected. So if you’re kinky and single on Valentine’s Day, count your blessings. There’s no demand on you at all. You can do whatever you want.

I’m all for celebrating love. I just don’t think it needs to be done on a prescribed dayClick To Tweet

It is difficult to ignore its going on though. There’s flowers and hearts everywhere. Here’s a few suggestions to help you survive Valentine’s Day and maybe even rejoice in it.
Give something to the One you Love.

You are the most important love of your life, so celebrate that. Take time to look after you.
Valentine’s is all about showing your love. So shower yourself with presents. Treat yourself to something you really want but don’t really need maybe. You could get yourself some luxurious bath products and spend some time lying in a warm, bubbly bath or slicking on rich body cream.

Buy yourself a bunch of flowers (and you can wait until the 15th and get a bargain if you want to) or a box of expensive chocolates. Why not treat yourself to a pretty item of jewellery or a new piercing or tattoo. It’s time to celebrate how awesome you are.

Valentine’s Day hears 2If you’re indulging yourself why not buy yourself something sexy? Pretty lingerie maybe or a new sex toy. Indulge your kinky side with wonderfully wicked torture devices you can use on yourself. Candles for hot wax play, Nipple clamps or maybe a long flogger. Let your imagination run wild.

Pamper yourself, you’ll find it a lot easier to be kinky and single if you feel good about yourself and your body. Spend some time loving yourself and yes, I am talking about masturbation. Orgasms make you feel good, they’re free and healthy. So don’t hold back!

Orgasms make you feel good, they’re free and healthy. So don’t hold back!Click To Tweet

Go on a date

Yeah, Valentine’s Day is not a good time to go out to a restaurant or the cinema on your own. You’re going to be confronted by cosy couples left, right and centre.

You can get past this by having a date at home. Settle down with a film you love, your favourite snacks and treat yourself with the one thing that matters most – time. Time to do just what you want to do. And if that film is sexy and you want to do yourself well go for it, why not? You get to decide what to do on this date.

Valentine’s Day HeartsDo you have a neglected hobby? It’s sadly the way it goes when you’ve got a busy life. Well for Valentine’s Day why don’t you get out your paints, your camera, your part finished cross stitch or whatever the tools of your hobby are and dedicate some time to doing that thing you love. It’s good therapy and will keep you occupied if you do find the 14th February brings down your mood.

Kink Craft Connected Cuff in RedIf you think you need something to keep you occupied, to stop your mind straying back to past celebrations with lovers or to stop overthinking in its tracks then why not try something new. Keeping your mind focused on one task is a wonderful way to unwind and feel at ease. Why not learn how to make your own flogger or cuffs, you can play with them yourself but you’ll also be freshly prepared for your next Dom.

You don’t have to avoid thinking about your kinks just because your single, in fact I would say it’s a good time to focus on your kinks and really work out what you want. It could prove very engaging in fact and give you inspiration for how to indulge your kinky side on your own.

When you go on a date usually, you’re not sure how the night’s going to end. Well, when you’re dating yourself you know you’re going to end up in bed together! Why not make the most of that and indulge in some epic self-loving? Don’t just settle for release, take time to indulge all your senses. Maybe you could watch or read something sexy, wear your best lingerie, pamper yourself, touch all your favourite places and don’t just focus on having an orgasm. It’s good to indulge and even seduce yourself sometimes.

It’s good to indulge and even seduce yourself sometimesClick To Tweet

Get Kinky

Just because you’re single it doesn’t mean you have to be on your own for Valentine’s Day. Why not go out with a bunch of your single friends? If you don’t want to be confronted with cosy couples and inflated costs have a house party that celebrates friendship, after all, that’s love too.

Valentine’s DayYou could look into munches and club nights in your area if you want to keep it kinky and find other people interested in the same things you are. You might even find the Master or Mistress of your dreams, you never know and you won’t find out if you don’t look. These days you have the internet at your fingers. You can research clubs and munches, maybe even chat to people who already go before you even step out of your door. It’s always good to do your research but the only way to really know if you’ll enjoy it is to take the plunge.

Just because you’re single it doesn’t mean you have to be on your own for Valentine’s DayClick To Tweet

Valentine’s DayLook for other events like the Alternative and Burlesque Fair, Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar, London Alternative Market etc that happen in the season of love. These are kinky affairs of course with shops filled with sexy delights and entertainment to tease and tempt but unlike clubs and munches these are fairs and have a more public air.

There will be lots of kinky people around to chat and talk to but in a more informal way and of course, you can be beautifully anonymous in a crowd and keep yourself to yourself if you want.
These meet ups and events might not happen on Valentine’s day but it will help to have something to look forward to or look back on when those reflective moments hit on the day itself.

Remember you’re beautiful, awesome and kinky and you should celebrate that this Valentine’s Day. Indulge yourself, love yourself because after all, you’re really worth it!

Written by Victoria Blisse

Queen of Smut and Writer of Award winning Rosy, Raunchy Romance. See more posts written by Victoria, or visit her blog to see more of her work or follow her on twitter.


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