Come to the darker side – we have scary implements!

Not quite as catchy as the Star Wars meme doing the rounds but equally as true. We all have a variety of fantasies in our heads, some light and fluffy and others much darker. The big question is which ones of these do you explore and which do you leave as just fantasy?

Have you got a deep desire to experience something a little taboo? What about a bit of consensual non consent, watersports or blood play for example. How do you decide if you should pursue your personal fantasy? Here are a few things you should consider.

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Safety first

Keeping yourself and your play partners safe has got to always be the first priority. A lot of dark fantasies are classed as such because there’s an intrinsic danger in the actions. It might not be very much fun or awfully sexy but think about things that can go wrong before you indulge your fantasy.

This isn’t designed to put you off, it will help you work out what you need to have in place in case of accidents. For example, if you’d like to use a vacbed you must do so with someone else present, always, to make sure your air supply is never cut off.

Don’t just think about your physical safety either. Make sure you consider your mental wellbeing too. This might mean considering who you play with, it might involve being sure you’ll get thorough after care, it might even mean adapting your fantasy a little so it isn’t as extreme.

The answer to keeping safe may be as simple as having a first aid kit handy, to have a safeword to yell if everything gets too much or some other way to signal that if you are gagged. It might be more complex and involve having a spotter, someone who isn’t involved in play but is just there to watch and make sure the people playing are okay.

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Before you even contemplate taking a fantasy into reality you need to be sure that danger is limited to the fun type that gives you a rush so no lasting harm is done.

Practicalities of the darker side

So you’ve worked out how to indulge your dark desire safely, the next step is to consider the practicalities. What do you need? Is it something you can make happen in your own home? If you need specialist equipment it might be that you need to look into fetish clubs in your area or possibly further afield if what you’re looking for is particularly unusual.

Another consideration is time. How long will you need to make your fantasy come true? It might be, if it’s a particularly elaborate role play, that you’ll need to set aside a day or two to indulge. You don’t want a time constraint to put paid to your well laid plans. If you’re going to play somewhere away from home, like a fetish club, you might need to make enquirers around how long you’ll be able to use their particular rooms and equipment to avoid disappointment.

It might be that you can’t afford to indulge your desire right now. You may need to save up to afford what you want. A consideration here is if you can afford it, you might decide that it’s too expensive to go through with.

Do you need other people?

Does your fantasy involve another person or several other people? If it’s not something you can indulge in safely by yourself or if it’s not possible to do it yourself (you can’t tie your whole body up in rope on your own for example) then you’re going to need to find someone to play with.

You’re going to need to find someone you trust deeply to reveal your deepest desires to them. It might be that your regular partner isn’t into the fantasy at all, then you will need to discuss getting your kink from someone else. You might need to find out information about how you actually make the dream a reality.

Here you have the world of the Internet at your fingers but please do check out the information you are receiving. Make sure that several reliable sources agree on the same points before taking it as fact. You might also want to look up experts in the field who you can chat to online and in real life to work out how to go forward and achieve your fantasy.

This again connects in with safety. You need to feel safe with the people you’re playing with. If you have any reservations at all at any point then bring things to a stop. You have to be 100% comfortable at all times. Well, unless your fantasy involves a measure of pain I suppose but you know what I mean.

Remember, this is your fantasy. You are in control, even if your desire is to be controlled. You have the final say in what happens and what doesn’t. There is no saying that a fantasy you love and regularly masturbate too needs to become a reality at all. You may be perfectly happy to leave it all in your mind and that’s okay.

If you decide to make your darkest desire come true keep it safe and most of all have some sexy, kinky, guilt free fun.

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