Fetish training is a service provided by Jet Setting Jasmine LLC. We asked Jet Setting Jasmine to educate us on what a Fetish Trainer was and what you can expect if you engage their services.

If your first thought was why would anyone need a trainer for my fetishes; then keep reading! A fetish is a sexual response to an object and or part of the body that is not typically sexual/ sexualised. It can be just about any non-traditional object, act and or body part that serves as a turn on. Now that we are clear on what a fetish is—let’s talk what fetish training is and why anyone would consider it.

A Fetish Trainer is an intimacy professional that is skilled at helping single, couples, and or small groups explore fetishes. The trainer takes a non-judgmental and supportive approach to normalising some of their client’s most intimate desires and or introduces fetishes in a safe environment. Jet Setting Jasmine Master Fetish Trainers are also skilled at providing sex and intimacy therapy in those cases where fetishes, sexual experiences and or intimacy issues are interfering with a client’s physical and or emotional functional ability.

How long does training take?

Fetish training can be one session or several months depending on the client’s needs. Some clients hire our company to learn how to spank, choke and or restrain safely before introducing this fetish play to their significant other(s). Others are more interested in the long term sessions to experience being a submissive with professionals that will help them identify future dominate prospects. With an exception of fetishes that violate children, animals, vulnerable individuals and anyone’s consent rights; our company will work to help client’s explore and execute fetish play safely.

Clients can expect to take time with their trainer in a consultation to narrow down the fetishes that they would like to learn more about in a simulated environment. Submissive, dominate and switch roles are awaken through a series of training sessions, whether in person or virtually.

Jet Setting Jasmine’s Fetish Trainers work with the client to reflect on their experience after the session and empower them to be more aware of their preferences and satisfy their curiosity in a non-judgmental environment. This allows the client(s) to build their confidence and skill set so they can introduce their fetish in their personal life. Oftentimes, we are consulted to assist clients with finding reputable spaces to “play” and or meet fellow kinksters. This is not as easy it seems, as many of our clients have been hiding their preferences for fear of judgement and or just simply not being aware that there are many others that enjoy a kinky fetish.

During fetish training, clients are often surprised to find out what their role, limits and interest are; but once they find it, the real exploration begins. We often work with introducing fetishes to a significant other in a way that our clients feel comfortable and very confident. For our single clients, they end their sessions with a better sense of what they would like to include in their sexual repertoire with new partners. We also work with normalizing fetishes and sexual practices for many that have been involved in sexual trauma and relationship challenges.

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A fetish trainer lets the client understand them self

Coaching people to release stigmas that have been associated with their fantasies is very liberating and has shown significant improvement in non-sexual relationships and endeavours. There have also been instances where exploring the fetish has led the client to realise that they are not interested in pushing the boundaries, or their intentions were not their own — the classic act of doing something because someone else likes it. We do not consider this to be a failure of training but actually a success. Whenever a client learns more about their preferences in a safe environment without posing harm to anyone else, we have all accomplished something wonderful!

We found an increase of interest in the world of fetish following the release of the book and video Fifty Shades of Grey. The book made its way into a very mainstream audience, giving them an opportunity to begin poking around and asking questions about the lifestyle of kink, bdsm and fetish. Our work has become ever more important, as the book and film left some of the realities of the lifestyle to the imagination.

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Where do you start?

One of the first steps to exploring fetishes is our Fetish Survey to help people explore the vast range of common fetishes. It is a great place to start either alone and or with a partner. One of our favourite activities is to have couples take the survey alone and then compare answers. We find that people are so relieved to find out their partner is as Kinky as or Kinkier than they thought! This opens the door for communication about the fetishes in greater detail and next thing you know they are planning a “play date”.

The survey also allows people to know where to start, what fetishes were on the list that they are unfamiliar with. After reading up on that fetish did they find that they were more, or less, interested in it? We always hear “I love doing that but I did not know it was a Fetish, I just thought I was weird in that way…” Often time, just by acknowledging that one is not alone in their fantasies is a relief and empowers one to act on their desires.

Why do I enjoy being a fetish trainer?

As a Fetish Trainer, it is a very gratifying experience helping people explore their kink! Whether it is our celebrity clientele to our stay at home mom’s seeking out a new thrill; we uphold a high level of confidentiality and integrity with each session. It takes a great deal of trust in your trainer to open up about very private fantasies and fetishes; it’s an honor to provide this intimate support. I also learn a thing or two about myself with every session personally and professionally.

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Providing fetish training pushes me as a therapist to use kinky curiosity as another avenue to promote healthy practices around sex, self-confidence, relationships and overall communication. While we are skilled at facilitating the exploration process and education on safe kink play, our clients are the experts on their sex lives/lifestyles. We take great pride in helping our clients incorporate new found fun in their lives and even more pride when they return to explore something new or get a bit kinkier from their first session.

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